April 7, 2011
Michael saw an ad in the paper for a circulation assistant at our local library. He encouraged me to apply so I went down to the library and picked up an application, filled it out, and dropped it off with a cover letter and copy of my resume. A few weeks later I was called in for an interview. I was pleasantly surprised since I had been having such bad luck in the past. So, I went in for my interview and I left feeling that the interview had gone well, but I was trying not to get my hopes up. A few days after my interview my phone rang and Michael hollered up the stairs that it was the library. He brought the phone up to me and I took the and was offered the job. I was ecstatic! One phone call had solved the greatest part of our worries…health insurance.
I started working at the library in May. The picture is from a display that I designed this month. Once I started my job I learned that my health insurance would not start for three months after my start date. So there would be two doctor’s visits that we would have to pay for out of pocket. At that point we were looking on the bright side of not having to pay for the whole birth. We set up a payment plan with the doctor’s office and hoped that we would not owe too much after the birth.
Another phone call was a life saver. The Wyoming Health office called to say that they had some extra grant money left over and they wanted to use it to help pay maternity bills for mothers who were uninsured. They were going to pay $500 towards the money that we owed for those first couple of visits. I was in Walmart when they called and I stated crying in the paper towel isle.
Those two things were miracles for us. I don’t know how we would have finically survived without them. The gifts that we received from friends and family were miracle too. I thank God for those miracles everyday!
April 4, 2011
Once the initial shock wore off Michael and I knew that we had to come up with a plan of action. We took a lot of walks in the field next to our house and would just talk that summer. We both knew that having a baby was expensive and we had no idea where we were going to come up with the money. I had been applying for both full and part time jobs for around a year and I only got one interview. Laramie has so many over qualified people that finding a good job can be be almost next to impossible.
We tried to lay out all of our options, which were limited. To say that we were scared was an understatement. But, I think that just being able to get out of the house and talk to each other that summer really helped to make things better. The best thing that we did was continue to be a team and work things out as a team. No matter what your problem is talking about it with your spouse can help to elevate some of the stress of it. And sometimes miracles happen just when you need them!
April 1, 2011
After learning, thee times over, that I was pregnant I was a mix of emotions. I paced backed and forth in our bed room trying not to freak out. Then for a moment I stopped and really thought about things. I have wanted to be a Mom for as long as I can remember. I put my hands on my stomach and closed my eyes and thanked God for the amazing gift that he had given me.
I wanted to call Michael so bad, but I had known for years how I wanted to tell him that we were going to be parents, and calling him freaking out on the phone was not it. I really wanted him to be the first person that I told. So I tried to think about what I would do for the next four hours. I knew that there was no way that I could keep it together until then, the freak out factor was high.
As happy as I was to become a Mom our life was not exactly in line for it. I was only substitute teaching at the time, and not bring in very much money. Our house was a complete construction zone. I was planning on completing my degree by doing my student teaching the semester the baby was due. But, the thing that was freaking me out the most was that I did not have health insurance and having a baby is crazy expensive.
So I got into my car and drove over my friend Courtney’s house. When she opened the door I broke into tears, all of my emotions rising to the top and over flowing. She did a great job of telling me that everything would be all right and that everything would work its self out. I don’t know what I would have done without her that day!
March 29, 2011
This is the first part in a series about finding out that we were pregnant, how that changed our lives, and how we dealt with all it. I am going to try to be as honest as I can in these posts. I think that it is important.
I am posting this one day late in honor of my one year Mommy anniversary!
For a couple of days my husband asked if I was pregnant. I kept saying no. At one point I even took a test and it was negative. I knew that I had some of the symptoms, but I just assumed that they were PMS. I have never been very regular so that was not a clue to me. I had all of the symptoms that you have with PMS; cramping, irritability, and tender breasts. I even made a joke to a friend that Michael thought that I was pregnant but I thought that he was crazy. In fact, that is a picture of me installing our floors when I was about three weeks pregnant, two weeks before I discovered this myself.
It was Monday, March 29th. I woke up at around 8:20 in the morning. I went into the backroom and figured that I would waste yet another pregnancy test. So I pulled out the test and did my business. I looked at the test as it filled in first the test line and then the second line. The pregnant line! I just sat there and stared at the test. The only think I could think was well that is new and different.
I went out of the bathroom threw on some clothes and drove out to Wal-Mart. I went straight to the pregnancy test section and bought two different brands of the digital read out test. I went to the register paid and drove home trying not to think. I ran up stairs to the bathroom and took the two test. There it was in black and white “Pregnant” and “Yes +”. There was no doubt about it…I was pregnant!
March 18, 2011
In my third trimester I heard two horrible words from my doctor…BED REST! I will give more information on that later. I knew that I still had so much to get ready for Benjamin. I was freaking out. Michael works 40 hours a week and there is only so much that he can do to help.
Michael’s Mom and Grandma offered to come up and help around the house. At first I wasn’t sure. I didn’t want to put them out. They told us both that they all just really wanted to help. So I finally said yes.
Thank God for their help. Those two ladies did a ton for us. They washed all of Benjamin’s new baby clothes, the rest of our laundry, dusted, swept, mopped, painted the blue wall in Ben’s room, and a whole bunch of other things. They even bought us new curtains for the living room and Benjamin’s room. There is no way that we would have been able to get everything done without them.
February 28, 2011
I looked everywhere for a space themes mobile that I liked and could not find one anywhere. I spent hours on-line looking on Amazon, Target, Babies R Us, and other places trying to find a mobile that I liked. The only one that I sort of liked was $70.00 and then was out of stock.
There was only one thing that I could do, make my own. I got the idea when I was in a local toy store. They had a kit where you could paint the planets and make a mobile. On a trip to Hobby Lobby I found an even better kit. amazon.com/Uncle-Milton-Solar-System-Room It was an educational light with the eight planets (we miss you Pluto!) and the sun in the middle. You would hang the light on the ceiling and the planets radiate out from the sun in the middle. Then I picked up a jungle themes mobile at garage sale. I was ready.
I cut the jungle animals off of the mobile, I washed them and now they are cute stuffed animals. The planets were all ready to hang. I used some silver ribbon like string to hang the planets. The planets and the mobile each had a place built in to easily tie the ribbon. It took less than ten minutes to do the whole thing.
The best part is that the mobile will grow with Benjamin. Right now I have the planets hanging very low so that he can see them and touch them. As he gets older I can shorten the stings and raise them. When Ben out grows the mobile all together I will use it as the light. We spent around $40 and got a great mobile and a light. The best part of the whole project was when Benjamin really noticed his mobile for the first time. He smiled up at and made my heart melt.
February 27, 2011
When we had our son money was a little tight. We tried to save any place that we could. A really great friend of ours gave us their son’s old crib. It was a really great solid crib. Since the main color in Ben’s room is blue we decided to pain the crib blue. Now when I say we what I really mean is me.
I took a look at the crib and thought this can’t be that hard, I can totally paint a crib. Michael was not so positive about the process. He just wanted to buy and new one and not worry about it. I was confident that I could do it and I told him that he would not have to do anything. So I began the process. I started sanding the crib. I sanded the crib in the garage, with the door open, while wearing a mask. I got one of the large side with the bars done. I thought that the project was going pretty well.
Then I got put on bed rest. No more work on the crib. Michael, my wonderful husband, took up the task. He finished the sanding, primed it and, painted the crib. He was amazing!! The funny thing is that he was putting the finishing touching on the crib the day before Benjamin was born.