When you have a baby people will offer you all kinds of help. Take them up on their offers. After Ben was born Michael and I sometimes had a hard time accepting help from people. We wanted to try and do everything by ourselves. People offered to cook us meals and watch Ben so that we could get out for a while. I really wanted to do everything myself. I also thought that if I accepted too much help that people would think that I was a bad Mother and I couldn’t do it.
The one thing that I learned is that people are not judging you for needing help. When you have your first child everything is new to you, no matter how much you have been around children. When there is this new life that is totally dependent on you, the pressure can get to you. Everyone can become overwhelmed and it is never wrong to ask for help from a friend, family member, or your spouse. The only wrong thing is let yourself become too overwhelmed.
I quickly picked up that people will not offer help if they do not want to give it. Most of the people who offer help are other mothers. They remember what it is like to have newborn. Others just understand how much is going on in your life right now. They really want to take some of the pressure off of you. Also people love being around a newborn baby.
So if you are feeling like you need a break, pick up the phone. We all need a moment of" ‘me time’ once and a while. And veteran Moms, remember to help those new-be Moms out, you were once one of them. And most of all when someone offers to help, don’t hesitate, just say YES PLEASE!!